I was so happy my daughter was turning 30 this month I didn't know what to do with myself! One thing I did was throw her a family/friend surprise party this weekend with her best friend Teri and make her a video (link above).
I think many mothers bemoan the aging of their children, because it means they are getting older too. And, they miss the days of young motherhood and the sweet times they represent. I rejoice for each day my daughter is on this earth with me! Not because I expect her to be taken from me! Quite the contrary...I expect her to live forever! She is the healthiest person I know, and has a strong foundation of faith in God that will take her on into eternity :)!
The reason I rejoice with all my heart is that I had to give two children into the Lord's arms in death before I had Abby. A sweet baby girl named Shirley Deborah, who was only 7 months gestation and died during childbirth...and a loving, dear son named David Richard who lived to be almost a year before Jesus came to retrieve the little Angel. I do not know why those two were sent home so early. But, I do know that will not happen to Abby. With all my heart I believe she will outlast me by quite a bit and I have every intention of living to be at least 100! :)
Abby is a healthy, strong and wonderful child. The woman doctor who delivered her, Dr. Linda Burns was well aware of what I had gone through. She took one look at Abby's APGAR score, the preliminary score they give babies based on their health at birth and said, "If you dropped this one out a window, she would sprout wings!" LOL! She was a 10! She wasn't recommending we be reckless with Abby, of course, but enthusiastically reassuring Mike and I that we had a very healthy baby girl on our hands.
She will be thirty this month on January 30th ~ her golden birthday! She plays hockey on an adults women's team in a very competitive class. She is the back-up goalie and she has learned to skate out on the team, because her goalie skills, which she has honed since the eighth grade, are not called for often enough! She is kind and loving to her dad and I. To all of her family, her loved ones and all of her friends. Her doggies, kitty and all furry creatures. She is hardworking and determined, back at college doing computer networking for her career. She is all a parent can hope for in a child.
She just posted this status on Facebook:Did you know the people that are the strongest are usually the most sensitive? Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated? Did you know the one who takes care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most? Did you know the 3 hardest things to say are I love you, I'm sorry, and help me. Sometimes just because a person looks happy, you have to look past their smile and see how much pain they may be in. I copied this from a friends wall because I thought it was powerfully true. We all need to pay more attention to those around us ♥
"To all my friends who are going through some issues right now--Let's start an intention avalanche. We all need positive intentions right now. If I don't see your name, I'll understand. May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy, paste, and share this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all those who have family problems; health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just need to know that someone cares. Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune. I hope to see this on the walls of all my friends just for moral support. I know some will!! I did it for a friend and you can too. You have to copy & paste this one, no share button "Because kindness is an effort given from the heart not the press of a button".
I am as proud of her posting this and what it represents about her heart and who she is, as I am of any of her accomplishments. She is tenderhearted and loving as well as a techie who works as a Counter Intelligence Office for the Geek Squad in the Best Buy in Duluth, MN. Counter Intelligence, means she works within the store. She works retail, the hardest job at all in my opinion, especially for someone as sensitive and thoughtful and slightly introverted as Abby. She does it well, every well. She is patient and kind to all and I am proud of her.
So is her dad. Her name Abigail in Hebrew means "Her Father's Joy" and she always has been. Just to see those two together is to understand the meaning of the word: BEAM! They beam around each other! They radiate love and energy and father/daughter FUN!
Not that I am left out in any way! Abby calls me Momma. I love the name. It is music to my ears. The way she says it is filled with love, respect and sweetness. She has always been my kiddo. My sweetie. All her friends I called honey, because I called her that and they were all in the same group at my house, all loved by me. She is a dear girl. A wonderful friend and has my heart. I thank God every day for the wonderful privilege of getting to be Abby's Momma.
Happy Birthday, Abby. Enjoy every day this month. Enjoy your 30th and the party you may have with friends in Duluth, I suspect. Enjoy every day of your life. It will be a long one and a blessed one. Don't ever forget that. Make the most of it and be happy every day! Love, Momma!